The past few days, I’ve been sad.
Let’s rewind and just say that I’ve been more ‘sad’ in the past few months of my life than I ever really have been… even though everything seems perfect from the outside, and even though I know I should be really f*ing grateful for what I have.
It’s OK to feel sad… even if it’s for no reason.
Life doesn’t always go the way you want or intend it to.
Maybe you traveled somewhere for a job opportunity that didn’t turn out the way you hoped it to.
Maybe you spent days, weeks and months working on a project that isn’t doing as well as you intended it to.
Maybe you’re flat broke and struggling to pay bills despite working hours and hours and hours at something.
Maybe you’ve spent months in the gym but still aren’t where you’d ideally like to be.
I get it. I’ve been in those situations.
And one thing I’ve learned lately is that in order to overcome them or learn the TRUE lesson behind the challenge you’re facing, you have to take 100% responsibility for where you are right now.
I know… it’s a gut check. And it’s uncomfortable.
It’s uncomfortable to tell yourself:
- This project didn’t work out because I didn’t apply myself enough
- I’m overweight because I chose to eat a lot of food at multiple occasions
- I don’t have a lot of muscle because I chose to skip the gym when I was tired and feeling lazy
- I’m broke because I’m not applying my energy in the best way that I possibly can be and I’m wasting time on projects that aren’t in line with what I truly know in my heart I should be pursuing…. Or simply because I’m not working hard enough
Admitting these things are REALLY hard to do, because it’s easier to just blame someone else: someone in your life, a coach, your circumstances, your environment.
Tell me if you’ve ever said anything along the things of these:
“This program didn’t work… I wasted my money and my coach clearly doesn’t know what he/she is doing.” (but really you were drinking on the weekends, eating out multiple times per week, failed to meal prep, and failed to go to the gym the days that were written on your program)
“I’m not making any money… there are no opportunities available to me.” (aka I really didn’t seek out opportunities to make money when they were available to me. I didn’t work hard enough at the opportunities that WERE presented to me.)
“I hate my boss. He/she is out to get me and just makes it miserable to work here.” (aka you’re not as successful as you’d like to be in your job and instead of working harder and trying harder, you choose to place blame on your boss for being the reason you don’t ‘like’ the job you’re doing.)
I’m not placing judgment here – these are all similar things that I’ve thought to myself.
It wasn’t until I took a step back and realized that I am in control of where I am right now.
I am where I am because of every. Single. Decision. I’ve made up until this point in my life.
Sure, some things may not be as I would like them to right now… but that just means the ball is in my court to make a different decision – a decision to change where I am.
Don’t like where you’re living? You don’t have to stay where you are. You are CHOOSING to, for whatever reason. (I understand some of these are valid, but if you are truly miserable… there’s a way around everything).
Don’t like your job? Try harder or get a new one.
Not seeing results in the gym? Try harder to stick to your program and diet.
Here’s another important point:
Take an HONEST assessment of where you are.
You can like ANY job you’re doing, if you’re applying yourself and feel like you’re being rewarded in some way or another… even if it’s not your IDEAL position, it can serve you well and you can benefit greatly from the lessons learned while you are there.
STICK to an exercise program for at least 12 weeks before you hop onto the next one. You could seriously pick almost ANY exercise program online and ANY diet plan (although that’s a lot more shaky, lol)… andyou could see decent results if you were 100% disciplined.
You are exactly where you are RIGHT NOW because of the choices you’ve made.
As soon as you take responsibility and realize the ball is in your court and YOU have the power to make a change in your life, the sooner you will be happier, more fulfilled and live a life that you’re proud of.
Love you guys!!!